Making Grown-up Decisions

Im so sorry for what you are going thru. please know im here for u.

I feel like I am about to do something not for me, but for everyone else. I am feeling so alone right now.

Please only decide based on what you want to do. its hard to make up ur mind-but will feel worse if u choose something based on others want u to do. Whatever u decide u have tons of people supporting u-u are not alone.

Please only decide based on what you want to do. its hard to make up ur mind-but will feel worse if u choose something based on others want u to do. Whatever u decide u have tons of people supporting u-u are not alone.

I kinda know what I want, I've weight my options over and over in my head but I know everyone will hate me. Everyone keep telling me I'm only 15 like I dont already know that. I know I am a disappointment to everyone, I've messed up but I know I can do this if they would only give me the chance..

hun ur not a disappointment. sometimes it helps to talk w. a non-bias person like a therapist or even doctor/teacher--they mt help u find a way to talk to your family & explain how u feel/what u want.

Oh I am a dissappointment. I can see it in their eyes. My mom is so stressed out right, when shes stressed she sleep a lot, she have headaches and if she get sick again because of me I will never forgive myself. I talked to my counselor and she told me do what everyone else want me to do.

I want to let you know everyone makes mistakes. It doesn't matter what age you are but that doesn't mean you are a bad person. It took me a long time to get over what I have done in the past. Also, I have a daughter that is 24 and she sometimes feels depressed because she has made mistakes and she feels she is such a bad person. I told her that every mistake is different and some are worse then others but we just move on and realize what we have done and do better the next time. My daughter had 3 kids by three different fathers but I told her she is still beautiful, smart, and I love my grandkids so much. You need to do what is best for you. Everyone has an opinion but what do u want. Is it a decision that you will be proud of and you have made one mistake and your decision can't be another mistake. I am here for you. :)

It's not, I dont want to do it. I feel if I do that I will never be ok with it. I feel God don't make mistakes, Only people do!

Ebony i think that your family is under so much stress right now-most not due to u-that any additional problem is overwhelming-but its not because your a disappointment, They might be disappointed in a mistake/something u did-but not in you. Right now-i bet your mom is going thru a mixture of emotions-anger at the situation-being upset for u-overwhelmed, blaming herself--that its going to take your mom some time to calm down & accept what u decide to do/be supportive of u. I know you mentioned that your relgious--it might help u & your mom to talk to a priest/minister right now for help to get your family through this hard time.
Big hugs-Maria