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Good Morning bwosomeshev

I am so sorry to hear you cannot sleep, I know the feeling when you want to sleep but you Mind keeps on Thinking! Try maybe reading a little before you go to Bed. I am reading a good book it is called - Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen. (7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential.) and I am also reading a book to help me with Over Eating when I am feeling down and depress, that book is called - The Carb Lovers Diet (Eat what you love, get Slim for Life! by Ellen Kunes, Editor in Chief, and Frances Largeman-Roth, RD, Health Magazine. I am a Mom, but I understand how you are feeling and what you are going through. Abuse is Horrible. But, you have to learn not to let it Eat You Up Inside. You deserve to be Happy. Don't let the Person who Abuse you Control the Rest of Your Life. If you do that he has Won. Put, him in the Past where he belongs. When ever you feel low, sad or depress, remember all the People who Love's You. I am here also for Support. About Babies, sorry to hear what has happen. In the Future maybe you can adopt a Beautiful Baby, who needs someone to Love him or her. Please take one day at a time, because it can Over Whelmed you. Don't Hate your self because you have to treat your self like you would treat a Friend who is Hurting, with Love and Kindness and Understanding. Become your own Best Friend. That is what I am trying to do! The reason your Weight is not going well for now, is because you are feeling down, depress. I do the same thing. I am trying to Lose at least 26 Pounds. Let's focus on that together if you would like. you are still doing well you said you only gained 10 pounds out of the 30. Give your self Credit for that. That is a Great Start. We get a Whole New Year to Work on Our Body and On Our Heart. I also know how it feels to Walk around with a Broken Heart, I have two Sons. Who I love so much! My 27 years old looks so Depress, and it is killing me inside. When I got Divorce I only wanted the best for him and them, his Father and only Brother let him down, so now my Son walks around not caring what he looks like. He is such a Nice Looking Son, he told me he doesn't remember being Happy, that broke my Heart all over again, he said Mom, it is nothing you did! He lives with two Friends and say's that Nothing goes his Way. I pray to God to watch over him. All he and I only wanted was Family, I had a Horrible Childhood and a Horrible Marriage, I was hoping for better for him. My Wish would be to have him with Me, but his Father told him to leave right before he had only 3 months to finish College and than his Father never moved away. So, he said if his Father could tell him to leave he is not taken a chance with my Fiance. I walk around feeling Guilty and Broken Hearted and Empty. I also have two Beautiful Grand Children that I barely see. I don't know what I did to receive so much Pain in My Life. But, I know one thing every thing I have been through is a Lesson, I would never Hurt the People I Love, and if I did, I would gladly say I am Sorry. You are not alone, you have your Family and now this Site. I am here if you need to Talk. You are not ungrateful, it is the past Abuse that is keeping you feeling low. Don't let that Person have all that Power Over You, anymore! You deserve a lot Better. Going for a nice Walk helps with Depression. Do you have any Pets, if you have a Dog take it for a Walk, he would love it and the Walk will do your Body and Mind a lot of Good. Bye, for now. A friend name Caffeine2 from support groups.com. Have a Good Day. Keep Busy to keep your self from letting that Negative Person get to You. Take Back Your Control. Bye!

Lately I've had trouble sleeping at all. One of the things that helps me is I downloaded a free app to my itouch with the sound of rain. (Don't laugh!)

I'm from Seattle Washington so rain reminds me of my childhood. I live in the desert now so it's not likely I will hear much rain anytime soon! :)

Did you ever see that movie with Michael Keaton & Geena Davis called "Speechless"? It's an 80s movie about two people with insomnia, meet, and fall in love but go through some tough times.

They had funny ways each used to help them sleep. I've tried the dryer trick with warm laundry (actually my blanket) and sometimes that works if it is cold outside. I pig out on weird foods but that usually backfires.

Reading a good book, listening to relaxing music, and zoning out on an old favorite movie or TV show on DVD are favorites too. Living with other people makes it hard to do anything noisy, like work out or blast tunes, but get creative! Find something you enjoy - a hot bath or whatever.

Two weird things that knock me out are a chocolate soda from Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory (no idea why) and hearing chinese music on a new mahjong escape ancient China game. Good luck!

sorry to hear about the sleeplessness. that has to suck. I get that way on and off but not so bad these days since I began taking 5htp (herb) it really helped me when meds from the doctors made so many thngs worse LOL

any ways when I get struggling with sleep I journal on the computor. cry and journal and cry some more. when that gets to be enough I clean and clean. if I gotta stay awake might as well have a clean home to look at LOL. and when that does not work I do something I have wanted to do for a long time. so I kick my own butt and do something I love. craft, sewing, gardening, ect, then I want to sleep grrrrrrr jsut when I am getting into things good too I get so relaxed I am out. Go figure do things I would rather not like journallin gor cleaning and I stay energized . do something I love and I am sound asleep.

I went two nights with little sleep here so I grabbed a book I have been meaning to read. read six pages and then was snoring like my pa on a sunday after noon nap .LOL.

tha body is a strange machine sometimes. can work in reverse too. want to stay awake add stress to the body and focus on things like that and you can keep going. did that when my daughter was suicidal and I needed to stay awake to ensure she was okay and I was exhausted. thoughts effect me in many ways and I am still learning how to control them to benifit me. LOL

I found all the posts interesting in this thread and informative. thanks every one and may you all find peaceful sleeps when your struggling.

hugs dare

it's so hard to feel all alone with the abuse and your thoughts. i too have a hard time with that and it interrupts my sleep majorly. do you ever feel supported and comfortable sharing with your family members what is bothering you? sometimes some people can actually be very supportive.

or you can also just write it out here and then you won't be so alone with it

Thank you all for everything you said!! Your support means more to me then you could ever know! I am sorry for your struggles as well and please know I am here for you! I will try what is suggested!! Thank you soo much! Always your friend!!!

Dear bwosomeshev

Just wanted you to know you are not alone, I am here to listen to your Heart. Email me anytime! I know how if feels to live with a Broken Hurt. To feel depress, empty, and alone, to hurt inside. Bye, for now. Email me, anytime. Your Friend Caffeine2 from support groups.com. I am Praying that the New Year will bring good things for all of Us. Bye, have a good day. We have to Stop, letting that person who Hurt Us, still Control Us, let's not let them have that Hold Over Us, anymore! It is time to break the chain connected with him, and start Controlling Our Own Life's.

Hello! I am also experiencing insomnia. I even took my Prescription medicine that is supposed to put me to sleep. Guess my body says yea right! My boyfriend doesn't understand. How can I blame him, I don't understand it myself! I was sleepy, then I lay down and my mind starts thinking how I could rearrange the bedroom furniture. I am having a lot of trouble keeping up with the house cleaning. I just want enough energy and focus to get it done.