Drunk AGAIN!

I'm so sorry LeeAnn, that is so completely not OK!! Is this something that happens frequently? Please know I am here for you and you shouldn't be having to tolerate such abuse. I'm very sorry!!

Sending big hugs, Suzee

I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I'm sure my husband feels some what the. I have been sober alittle more than a week, and I'm trying to deal with all the horrible things that I have done while I was drunk. I have hurt alot of people. Just remember he is sick. It doesn't make it right at all. I'm here if you need to talk.

Hey Suzee! It seems to be happening more often recently, before it was once every 6 months or so, but now it seems to be once or twice a month. I know that doesn't seem like a lot, but the things he say's to be is just.......... WOW nothing that a man should say to someone they love, and the mother of their child. Im just so tired. =( But thank you Suzee, I am glad to have you to lean on, =)

Hey Sarah! I am so happy for you that you are getting help for your problems!! Gongrats on the recovery and being sober! I have been around alcoholics my whole life. I know the hurtful those things can be. I hope everything is much better for you and your family.

of course you do just walk out hun:D

im just done don't know what to do im hurting so bad want to just be with that special girl of my dreams somebdy please give me some advice im hurting my heart is breaking im not sure where to turn i just want to cry my eyes out..... somebody please feel like im falling and can't stop until the right one catches me help!!!!! so confused

puerto rican princess, I wish that was as easy as it sounds.

I am so sorry for what has happened to you, in your past, and I pray things get better for you. Everyone deserves to be happy, and I hope you find your happiness. =)

thanks so much i just pray to god everything will get better

LeeAnn, I am sorry you are living with this.

I can tell you, I lived with this for 21 years and 4 kids later, I have finally put a end to it.

My Husband did the same thing, usually once or twice a week, he would not come home from work and the kids and I would just be sitting.
I would watch the clock and feel anger, sadness, fear that he was getting in trouble, hurt and on and on.

Then he would stroll in at bar closing, make a big meal, mess, and if I confronted him, he would say the ugliest things to me.

We would bicker fight for a day, he would promise he will not do it again and three days later it started all over again.

I acted like the beer cop and would even drive from bar to bar looking for the idiot.
Then when they feel you might actually leave, they present the "I need treatment theory"
Which never really went any where.

I think now, wow if I had to do it over, it would have gone on once and I should have left. Not 20 years and hundreds of episodes.
I am bitter that I wasted so much time on a person who didn't care about anyone but himself.
I should have been focused on our kids and myself.

It does not get better, unless there is a true genuine attempt by your Husband. You cant not make him do what you want.
Trust me, it only escalates.
Lets see, from what I described above, it went to over 20 years to:
2 DWI'S
2 Domestic violence's
to cocaine abuse
jail time
restraining orders
suicide attempt
probation
and then the final blow, he cheated.
That was the last draw.
He now sits in a run down apartment when not working
Has no friends and no respect from anyone.
His kids want nothing to do with him
He is lonely and lives in this delusional mind set, that he is a victim of everyone.
No one seems to understand "he is a good guy, and just misunderstood"
There will come a time, when you just do not care any more.
Please do not let it take 21 years like it did for me.
I have OCD and its very disabling, my Husband knew I was terrified of being all on my own and wouldn't go any where, instead of helping me with this condition, he exploited it to his advantage.
Sure it hurts a lot, to leave, but trust me its better then hurting a little for years.
Please but up a emotional barricade and have zero tolerance for his garbage.
Possibly go to a local Alanon meeting.
I just want to spare you what I went through.

and OMG, you are so beautiful and your Daughter is a absolute pumpkin, please focus on you and her and not the alcoholic.

i'm so sorry every one who is going through these damn hard times with their husbands just i would seek consuling and try to work it out for the sake of the kids but if it get's too out of control try to get shelter in a safe place and not saying the abuse is right it mostly defently not not at all i just hope you strong brave woman can get through this also had to stay strong my self going through it and please if you can get out please do it asap please : D
whenever you ned me just either send a message im here to listen or just post thanks god bless you all things will take a turn for the better

i hear u .. my husband does the same thing .. when he gets home after drinking im the target of his anger .. doesnt matter if we have a good day , we could have had the best day but when that line is crossed ... i walk on egg shells .. i know it is not easy to leave thats why i havent .. and with children it is harder believe me .. but ur not alone and im here if u need to talk

LeeAnn, hes doing this cause no one is raising the bottom for him yet. Take baby steps & research a safe exit plan to impliment if possible, I know its hard hon & alot of us stay in abusive situations for different reasons for way too long. Are you employed yet or are you still in college? I hadnt followed all your posts so please excuse me for not having all the info.

Krista - Excellent post.